Aiyana's Request
Day One:
Aiy: Mom, I mean Hillary...
Me: (talking to Charles) Aiy, has called me everything today BUT Hillary.
Aiy: Can I start to call you Mommy now?
Me: You have a Mom!
Aiy: I know, but I want to call you Mom, too!
Me: I don't think you're mom would like that very much. Do you?
Aiy: I don't know!
Day Two:
Aiy: So, can I call you Mom?
Me: That would be fine with me. You know that Aiy, but I just don't think you're mom would like it.
Aiy: I won't tell her! She doesn't have to know!
Me: She wouldn't like that, either! I mean, I am your step mom. I'll always be here for you. Maybe you can come up with a name for me. Something special you can call me. What about that?
Aiy: I still want to call you mom!
I would be honored for her to call me mom. I just feel like if it were Brevy or Bones, I wouldn't want them calling someone else mom. I really don't think her mom would like it, either. Think about it. Yes, I have known her since she was a baby. Yes, I have always been in her life. Yes, I am married to her Father. But what is the right way to handle something like this? I mean, I'm always here for her. She knows this. We have a good relationship. I just think she wants more. I think I handled it well. Mom= My other Mom... I dunno!
Aiy: Mom, I mean Hillary...
Me: (talking to Charles) Aiy, has called me everything today BUT Hillary.
Aiy: Can I start to call you Mommy now?
Me: You have a Mom!
Aiy: I know, but I want to call you Mom, too!
Me: I don't think you're mom would like that very much. Do you?
Aiy: I don't know!
Day Two:
Aiy: So, can I call you Mom?
Me: That would be fine with me. You know that Aiy, but I just don't think you're mom would like it.
Aiy: I won't tell her! She doesn't have to know!
Me: She wouldn't like that, either! I mean, I am your step mom. I'll always be here for you. Maybe you can come up with a name for me. Something special you can call me. What about that?
Aiy: I still want to call you mom!
I would be honored for her to call me mom. I just feel like if it were Brevy or Bones, I wouldn't want them calling someone else mom. I really don't think her mom would like it, either. Think about it. Yes, I have known her since she was a baby. Yes, I have always been in her life. Yes, I am married to her Father. But what is the right way to handle something like this? I mean, I'm always here for her. She knows this. We have a good relationship. I just think she wants more. I think I handled it well. Mom= My other Mom... I dunno!
Yeah, that could be it. I dunno. I think it's more than that though. You all have always called me ma or momma. Ya know? Why so much now as opposed to before?? Ya know?!!! I dunno. I think it's a difficult situation and I tried to do the right thing.
Love you, too. Miss you.
Posted by Hillary | 12/12/2005 05:06:00 PM